How To Feel Better About Everything – Dr. Ben Kim

For most of the year 2000, I worked and lived at a fasting clinic in northern California where I spent time with many groups of eclectic guests from all over the world.

I often tell my wife that during that year, I felt like I was floating around in a bubble, almost immune to any downers that life brought my way. Sure, there were times when I felt a bit crummy, but most of the time, I was at peace, able to feel compassion for anyone.

The source of my deep well of harmony was a commitment that I made with myself to live with the following philosophy in mind:

All behaviour is motivated by love or by a need for love.

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How To Feel Better About Everything.

How To Be A Jedi Knight by James Altucher

In 2005 I was going to go out of business (again). My biggest investor had lost all his money. He had a nervous twitch and whenever I ran into him he was constantly twitching, “I need my money back,” he told me.

But I didn’t have it. I had invested it. It would be a year before I could legally give it to him. So I didn’t know what to do. He once threw a chair at me he was so angry.

So I did what any normal 37 year old man in the fund of hedge funds business would do.

I bought the book, “The Tao of Star Wars”. Because I knew deep down if I just surrendered to The Force then my business would be ok.

I read the book every night before I went to sleep. I had confidence that it would save my business.

And it did. Or I did. Or something did. My business didn’t go under. That wouldn’t happen for another year or so.

A few weeks ago Cheryl Richardson, author of the book, “The Art of Extreme Self-Care” asked me and a bunch of people what movies impacted us the most. I jumped right out there, “Star Wars”! because I believe in The Force. I think someone else said “Schindler’s List”.

I saw Star Wars when I was seven years old and it changed my life. I’ve seen it over 40 times since then. Claudia and my kids refuse to see it. Damn them!

I tried to explain the story to my dad and he gave me wise advice, “I can never follow when someone tries to tell me a story”. I now repeat that sentence almost every day to people who try to tell me boring stories.

Nobody knows what’s true and what’s fake. We all have faith in something: usually a mixture of some personal beliefs with modern science. I am not like that. Mostly I just believe in what personally has worked for me.

The Force works for me. I admit it.

Here’s how to be a Jedi Knight:

A) Rest when you have nothing to do.

When Qui-Gon is fighting Darth Maul in The Phantom Menace a transparent door closes, dividing them. Darth Maul paces back and forth and Qui-Gon simply sits and rests and seems to be doing nothing.

It doesn’t matter to me that Darth Maul kills Qui-Gon at the end of that fight. Qui-Gon comes back later. Whatever.

In modern society we all feel like we have to be like Darth Maul. Pacing, finding a “purpose”, being anxious, stressed, waiting for doors to open. This is the dark side of the force.

How great is it to just rest and be happy and not move when you don’t have to.

I will tell you: it’s great.

That doesn’t mean: avoid mastery. It simply means: rest when you have nothing to do.

B ) Less.

Get rid of everything you don’t need. Obi-Wan lives in a cave or a hut for 40 years when he’s on Tatooine.

Yoda, who was ruler of the Universe, lives in a swamp after he loses his battle with the Emperor.

They were still capable of laughing, of living, of staying healthy, of being able to train the next generation. They didn’t need anything to keep them entertained.

Of course, I have to keep repeating, it’s a story. But this is the way I would like to live.

C) Practice being “good”.

Being a good, compassionate person is not something like “having two arms” or “being able to see”. It’s a quality we develop over years and thousands of hours of practice.

Most people are not good people. In business, in art, in almost every “world” I’ve been in, most people I’ve meet are pretty gray to black. It takes practice to be the person who is a source of compassion and honesty.

Supposedly it takes 10,000 hours to master something. Unfortunately, most people spend 10,000 hours trying to be a jerk to others. If all you do is put in your 10,000 with small kindnesses, then the universe will return that many times over.

D) Read.

Clearly George Lucas read many spiritual texts before he wrote even the first Star Wars or conceived of the whole saga.

I’d start with the Tao Te Ching and then various interpretations of it. Then I’d go with any stories of Chuang Tzu, Buddha, Thich Naht Hanh, the Bible, and I’d read “The Art of Happiness” by the Dalai Lama.

I don’t think one should be a “Taoist” or a “Buddhist”. I doubt that Buddha was a “Buddhist”, which is just a label. Nor should one be a “Jedi-ist”. There’s no reason to separate yourself from others.

Just read texts that are inspiring.

E) Think About What You Read.

If you read one page of the Tao Te Ching there’s enough in there to think about for a year.

There’s a saying, “reading spiritual texts is good, thinking about them is 100 times better, practicing what you read is 100,000 times better.” So think and practice.

F) Health.

In all of the movies I never saw an out of shape Jedi. Although there seems to be a deep spiritual component to being a Jedi, clearly there is a physical health component as well.

They are jumping out of spaceships, fighting with light sabers, and they can probably run a four minute mile. Heck, even Yoda at the age of 800 is jumping all over the place.

Why is health important? Buddha doesn’t talk about health. Jesus doesn’t mention health.

Health is not important. But sickness is. If you are sick, then your thoughts will be stapled to that sickness.

You’re in pain and pain takes up the mind. This is why “The Yoga Sutras” is not about looking good in a yoga studio and picking up girls (although that is a good use of it). It’s about staying physically and emotionally healthy so you can focus on your spiritual life.

G) Be around other Jedis.

Once Anakin starts hanging out with Darth Sidious he becomes a bad guy.

Here are some things that are hard in life: being honest, being kind, trying to add value to others. These things take time and energy. When you are around people who steal your energy then those things become even harder.

H) Be open-minded.

The difference between Luke and Han in the original Star Wars. Luke is willing to believe. There’s a lot of issues people get “stapled to” almost as if they were sicknesses.

Some core issues: pro-choice vs pro-life. war vs anti-war. college vs no-college, global warming, etc. I’m not saying one side is right and one side is wrong. When you find yourself thinking, “This side is DEFINITELY right” be willing to open your mind and look at why the other side thinks the way they do.

It’s never for the stupid reasons you think it is. Issues are just ways for the mind to practice being open-minded. Strong opinions are ways for the mind to get stapled to this planet, filled with so many myths and manipulations.

This is good practice for the actual hard decisions you have to make in your life. Else your brain get’s too soft and one-sided.

I) Trust.

Luke has to watch Obi-Wan die. Han has to be captured by bounty hunters. Anakin has to be recruited as a little kid. Qui-Gon has to die. Yoda has to go into exile.

Bad things happen. But if you follow steps A-H, bad things happen in cycles. Good things also. Trusting that the kindness you are putting out there is compounding in a secret bank account for you means waiting for that bank account to deliver it’s returns. It will.

J) Try Not. Do.

As Yoda says to Luke. He’s basically saying, “there’s no future. There’s only now.” He’s not saying, “solve the universe right now”. He saying, “DO” right now. Not just try.

Whatever you do. Whether it’s washing dishes or lifting spaceships out of swamps, do your best at it. Don’t just try to do your best. This is how people know you can be trusted.

K) James is crazy.

Yeah, I am. But I believe it. My business did get saved. Then it went out of business later. Then my next business got bought. Then it went down the drain. Then my marriage disintegrated. Then I went broke (again). Then I got married again to the woman of my dreams. Then I lost all of my writing jobs. Now I write more than ever. Then I lost many friends. Now I have more friends than ever. A million things. I trust good things will happen.

Everyone thought “Old Ben” was crazy. And he probably was. But he didn’t care. He died at the end of that movie. And in a short enough time, so will the rest of us.

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Today I Lost Two Million Dollars

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Do You Control Your Life? by James Altucher

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Do You Control Your Life?

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A lot of angry people out there are trying to control you and even kill you.

I bet you can list at least a dozen people trying to control you right now.

I wrote an article the other day saying how I paid my taxes but that it made me sick to my stomach. Blech!

Taxes and money are a very emotional issue for many people. Some people wrote me angry letters. In two cases I wrote back, "Please reread the article" and then they reread and apologized.

How come they apologized? Because they didn’t read it. They just projected their own anger onto my article and then onto me. That’s what most people do all of the time. They are sick but they puke on you.

They wanted to provoke a response from me. They wanted to control me.

I have two challenges: not letting people control me, and not trying to control anyone else. When I succeed at these two things, life is pretty good.

The first time I ever made a lot of money, it did not make me free. It cost me my freedom. Before I had money I had a lot of friends, I did what I wanted on weekends and at nights, I had fun.

After I had money I started thinking I needed to make more money. A LOT more money. I started buying things I couldn’t really afford.

I started lending money out to friends and family in the hopes of "helping" them. I thought people would like me if I "saved" them.

Nobody will ever remember how you helped them. And you can’t save anyone. This was my first lesson.

My second lesson is that I never really owned anything. When I "owned" a house I became slave to the bank, slave to the government, slave to upkeep of the house, slave to the other people living in the house (my family, who I became afraid would be homeless).

Third, I let money control who I associated with. Eventually I ended up with no friends or family. The people I truly loved at the time, I lost. I still regret it.

I was afraid of consequences. I was afraid to lose "everything" even though I had already lost it.

I sold everything. I had to give up many of my friendships and even many of my family relationships. I disappointed probably everyone. But it was the only way I could get free and start from scratch.

Once I started from scratch I was able to begin the long process of reinventing myself.

I probably own nothing right now except some clothes and some books. And all my relationships, 100% of the people I talk with, are only with people I choose to talk to.

If someone in my life tries to control me because of their own fears and angers, then they are out.

I also try to not control anyone else. If someone does something I don’t like, I can’t control what they think or do.

It’s useless and it’s a waste of my time. I try to change my circumstances so I don’t have to deal with those people.

What if you are stuck in a job and have bills to pay because of past mistakes? You have to work for your freedom then. And it’s an ongoing process. It’s every day.

The key to freedom is Luck. But luck is not magic.

Luck equals 1. Persistence plus 2. Diversification.

1. Diversification means coming up with 1000 ideas and implementing the one or two percent that seem reasonable.

2. Persistence is a sentence filled with failures punctuated by the occasional success.

Coming up with 1000s of ideas means having the energy and creativity to brainstorm.

Energy equals Physical plus Emotional plus Mental plus Spiritual health.

All forms of health are a function of how much you control your own life divided by how much people control you.

When I respond to an angry comment, someone controls me. Anger controls me. Then I spend less time being healthy.

If I’m in an unhappy relationship but afraid of the consequences of breaking it then fear controls me.

If I daydream arguments between myself and a boss or a sister or a colleague or whoever, then anger is controlling me. Their issues have nothing to do with me.

If I let them control me, or I try to control them, then I sacrifice my health. Then I can’t generate ideas. I lose persistence. I get unlucky. I lose my freedom.

Every time. No exceptions. I’d rather be healthy than "right".

Many people have written about things like "the law of attraction". The law of attraction is about attracting things in the outside world into your life.

This is fine. But it won’t work unless you control what’s happening on the inside world first.

This is the one thing truly under your control. It’s the only way to choose yourself.

Don’t be the slave. Be the master.

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CoastZone – End of the Mayan Calendar Extravaganza

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December 22, 2012 – See link below
End of the Mayan Calendar Extravaganza:On Friday’s program, George Noory checked in with various guests on the status of the post Mayan calendar world. Reporting live from the Mayan Galactic Cruise, C2C science advisor Richard C. Hoagland suggested that HAARP activity played a role in ensuring the worst case scenarios of Mayan prophecy did not come to pass. Prophecy expert John Hogue bid farewell to ‘end times’ thinking and encouraged listeners to face the future without pinning their hopes on a specific date or external events. Change must come from within, he noted.Remote viewing teacher Major Ed Dames looked to 2013, warning of a year filled with chaos and havoc as well as the beginning of the solar ‘killshot’ sequence. Author Mike Bara identified the day as one that provided humanity with an opportunity to vote with thoughts and prayers on the kind of world they wanted. Energy pulses from the center of the galaxy hit us every nine days and we can use it to change our culture positively he said. Social pioneer Barbara Marx Hubbard celebrated 12/22/12 as our first planetary birthday, adding that if we look to the impulse of creativity being born in us, we can in turn give birth to a world as we co-create it.Author L.A. Marzulli characterized the hype surrounding 12/21/12 as a red herring that has drawn attention away from real prophecy currently manifesting in the Middle East. Specifically, he pointed to the prediction in Isaiah 17 of Damascus becoming a ruinous heap as well as looming events foretold in Ezekiel 38. Marzulli said he believes the Mayans received their calendar from interdimensional ‘sky gods’ that may possibly be angels. Author and hospice volunteer Dannion Brinkley praised the Mayans for their advanced knowledge of astrophysics and remarkable understanding of galactic alignments. He revealed that we are moving from a Galactic Period in which corrupt institutions collapse into a Universal Period characterized by no more secrets.

Dr. Bruce Goldberg said he was not worried about the 12/21/12 apocalypse, as the future life progressions he has conducted with patients showed it would be just another day. Meso-American scholars have found nothing about the end of the world in Mayan records, he added. Goldberg advised listeners to access their higher selves and not let others bring them down. Glynis McCants offered numerological insights, noting that the master number for this auspicious date is ’11’. This is about communication and the opportunity to let things go and become a better person. McCants warned of conflict on 12/23/12 and said the new year will be about getting back to the basics in a ‘cycle of 6.’

Author Whitley Strieber credited the media with propagating end-of-the-world hype surrounding the date. He also corrected some misconceptions, noting that we are not passing over the lens of the galaxy and the planets are not in alignment. Researcher Wynn Free shared an opposing point of view, explaining that on 12/21/12 a celestial alignment allowed energy to flow into our realm at the strongest magnitude in the history of mankind. This energy is causing the Earth, a third chakra planet, to move into a fourth chakra marked by compassion and empathy, he said. Humans must open their heart chakras to the new energy to continue on their evolutionary track, Free added.

Author and nuclear terrorism expert Robert Gleason pointed out that there is no evidence of any forthcoming apocalypse in the extant Mayan writings. Everything we know about them is really just from their monuments and oral traditions, he said. Huffington Post writer Lee Speigel expressed his concern about the psychological impact the doomsday date may have had on certain individuals. One science teacher claimed that parents of two of her students planned to kill themselves and the children, he reported. Mythologist William Henry identified the day as a ‘mile marker’ in an ongoing internal process, not a destination. Now the real work of rebuilding our world view begins, he announced.

Investigator Graham Hancock said he is filled with joy at the idea of humanity waking up and taking back sovereignty from the state, corporations, and religion. Our destiny lies in our own hands, he added. Egyptologist Robert Bauval marvelled at the Mayan’s ability to calculate the apparent movement of the precession of the equinox. He also commented on the controversy surrounding archaeologist Zahi Hawass as well as the final round of voting on Egypt’s constitution. Scientist Maurice Cotterell explained that the Mayan calendar has not actually ended and contains accurate information about sun cycles and magnetic reversals.

 

Ben Saunders: Why bother leaving the house? – YouTube

Published on Dec 14, 2012

Explorer Ben Saunders wants you to go outside! Not because it’s always pleasant and happy, but because that’s where the meat of life is, “the juice that we can suck out of our hours and days.” Saunders’ next outdoor excursion? To try to be the first in the world to walk from the coast of Antarctica to the South Pole and back again.