Love is brutal at times. It asks more of you than you can give. And yet love carries us forward, carves our way forward, even when we would sometimes rather just stand still. It shifts and changes like a natural force because it is a natural force, yet somehow remains foundation, bedrock, home-base. Wherever you are in your grief, lean into your love. When there is nothing else to hold onto, hold on to love. Let it carry you forward. How about you? Where do you feel your love, their love, most strongly? Share with us in the comments.
Anxiety—whether it’s new to you, or you experienced it before your loss—is a huge issue in grief. It’s exhausting. And it’s not even useful. So what does help? Being honest with yourself. Acknowledging your own feelings. Telling the truth allows you to relax enough to ask yourself what you need in that moment. You won’t always get what you need. But the practice of asking yourself what you need, and taking the most likely-to-be-effective course of action to meet those needs, actually BUILDS a sense of safety in the world. For a whole lot more about how to deal with anxiety inside grief, check out my first book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: https://refugeingrief.com/book/ And my guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed: https://refugeingrief.com/grief-journal/
The November #EnergyUpdate has arrived! Three of the themes for this month that I will be exploring are: Global and Personal Shifts in Power – These Are Ongoing. How is it affecting you? The Release of Assumptions – We Are Learning Where Our Perceptions Are Not Correct or True, The third theme will be, Why Are You Alive Right Now? Do You Know or Are Others Deciding for You? We cover eight themes in total this month, so be sure to watch the full Energy Update. Big love, Lee x
Time stamps: 00:01 – Intro 01:35 – Global and personal shifts in power (ongoing) 05:42 – Releasing Assumptions (learning where our perceptions aren’t correct or true) 09:30 – Allowing your conscious bravery to appear and SHIFT the energy 13:27 – Shedding or insulating? Balancing against the outer storm 16:32 – Heart pain and grief becoming heart appreciation and openness 20:59 – The dissolution of old conditions and programming = disorientation 25:01 – “Why are you alive?” Have you decided why, or are others deciding for you? 28:11 – Vision a new future for yourself and us all (this is a collective superpower).
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